Punishment
by reward
Just finished professor Alfie Kohn Article about Punishment by rewards.I
am a person who believes motivation comes with an appreciation. Appreciating
what other party do is the greatest way to higher achievement. When I think
about punishment ,it modifies through decades and now it's time to end
completely. A decade ago overall punishing was more harsh ,such as executing,
punish civilians and domestic punishments. It's slowly changing during past
decades such as my parents' time had more physical punishment , a decision made
by parents etc. When I was a kid more verbal punishment and less physical
punishment. Today more rewarding and no verbal or physical punishments at all.
Most parents used to do Logical consequences.
I do agree some of professor's ideas also perplex and self arguing for another.
What I understood? And does it really work for all the kids and parents? And
how the journey /his opinion begins.
"Rewards are most damaging to
interest when the task is already intrinsically motivating. That may be simply
because there is that much more interest to lose when extrinsics are
introduced; if you're doing something boring, your interest level may already
be at rock bottom."
I agree with him, If the environment is
motivating nobody else want to double motivate them , but someone can motivate
with given environment and someones choice may be different. Also if kids are
happy and satisfied we do not want to punish or give rewards. Punishment will
come with were a child and the adult is not content. At the school and workplace
the authority can support them to engage with the environment instead of giving
bribes of A', Food or object. I agree as he state here some rewarding programs are
definitely discouraging other children. When I was a child I never became
forward than the others so I always lose. I came to one point I have no luck to win. I gave up many
opportunities instead of trying, But
when I was older I realized what is the life is and keep tried and win. These
reward systems are harmful to kids since every parent wants their child to be a
hero in the school. Since I had a hard time winning my mind build to push my
children to win and learn more what they want to know. Also label begins such
as "this child is bright, She is a failure".These label for sure
effect to all the grades and other activities. Even after school it follows us.
Therefore rewards for motivating is not really work well but advises and
support for sure to help the child to motivate.
"What kids deserve is an engaging
curriculum and a caring atmosphere so they can act on their natural desire to
find out about stuff. No kid deserves to be manipulated with extrinsics so as
to comply with what others want."
Yes exactly kids need engaging
curriculum and supportive environment. But need to have skillful teachers to do
so. Do we have skillful teachers, and how do we evaluate their backgrounds. Even
state required certain credit units, there are high quality and low quality
teaching institutes who feed different level of skilled teachers. We all raised
with rules and regulations, the engaging environment he is talking about having rules and regulations? If so children
are content. Some reward giving negative
impact and why not appreciate a child who behave well in class. During my
childhood, get on with bright kids definitely help me to successful with my
exams. "You can't motivate another person, so framing the issue that way
virtually guarantees the use of controlling devices." How can I be
agreeing on this..If we can't motivate a person why we have the word motivation.
The motivation comes with the situation of the person. Such as a worker who is
under economic hardship will definitely motivate with salary increment. I
believe we can motivate a child with many ways, Supporting them, encourage,
appreciate. I agree with him about giving rewards to motivate a child but
motivation is an important thing and everyone can motivate. Therefore his ideas
fighting inside me and I am trying to see this positive article.
Rewads doesn't work at all the time. As
a parent I never used rewards to discipline kids but explain cause and effect.
Because I thought if I gave rewards one day , they will expect it every day.
But I always appreciate their academic work with a star. She is definitely
becoming happy and motivate to do another page. How I can prepare a curriculum
with 3Cs.This is the only question I have in my mind. Can all parents support
their children with their busy work schedule. But that is what children need,
support and love. I know personally some parent have not time to give a wash to
their child. How to start, educating parents and teachers. We all behave
through spanking ,rewarding and motivating. Can parent and teachers change
their family style.
Ultimately I would think rewarding is
somewhat giving bribe to a child to become my way. I agree with him on that.
But appreciating a person in a class,motivating a child with loving word is not
a bribe. This article changed my attitude about how to behave children and
definitely something to think about.
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